Friday, October 23, 2009
I have blogged about this hot button topic before: to have kids or to not have kids. Well writer Laura Scott has blown the lid off of couples who choose to remain childless in her new book "Two is Enough: A Couple's Guide to Living Childless By Choice".
The writer clearly states that her maternal instinct never kicked in. I admire Scott for that alone. Not every woman is a nurturer, nor desires to be. This does not make Scott a monster but someone who knows her limitations.
I also like the fact that her husband was in total agreement. I look at husbands and their wives and wonder how many of them if given the chance to do it over again would make the choice to have children. A former friend of mine was always too worn out from being a working mom with 2 kids to have any romantic time with the husband. I'm not saying they had a sexless marriage, but there were no date nights, no weekends alone, no spontaneity. Scott stresses that conversation about whether or not to have kids needs to be done before the vows take place. What baffles me is that there are women and men who don't even bring up the subject of children during the dating stage, and then act all shocked and surprised when after the vows their now spouse scoffs at the idea of kids.
Girlfriends and Sex and the City took on this subject very well. Joan had fallen hard for sexy Brock and was ready to marry him only to find out he was not interested in starting a family with her. Carrie on SATC also fell hard but for a fiftyish artist who had already raised a family and was not interested in starting another one at his age.
There are other factors listed in the article which play a factor in a couple's decision: economics, careers, leisure interests, etc. Let's face it as cute as Shiloh, Zahara, and Nahla are, their asses are expensive. Fortunately for them their parents have money and can hire help with the kiddies when it's time for them to go to a premiere, or jet off to some exotic locale to make a movie. We average Janes and Joes can't do this. Finding a sitter that you trust enough to leave your kid with for 2 hours so you can catch a movie at the theatre and not wait on Netflix to release it is a feat in itself.
Feedback please people. I love your comments and if you want to read the article I based my blog on, here's the link:http://www.aolhealth.com/healthy-living/relationships/childless-by-choice.
Sunday, October 18, 2009
Regardless of what your personal opinion is, the judge in the forefront of the Beth Humphrey (now McKay) and Terence McKay case was dead wrong. In case you aren't familiar with the story, this is the judge who refused to marry the interracial couple in Louisiana. He claims that interracial marriages are wrong and always end in divorce.That is out right ignorance. Look at all of the same race couples that divorce. Another thing the judge said is that his main concern was for the children. Ha!! His main concern is not seeing yet another one of his precious White Queens settle down with a lowly Negro? Sound off below in the comment section!!
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
I was watching The View today, and the ladies were talking about this man who was kicked off of a flight for praying out loud and being unruly. Barbara made a comment and said that she does pray before flying and that it's the only time she does pray. I have always known Ms. Walters was not a spiritual person. I remember her clearly stating that she does not believe in a heaven or hell so that spoke volumes. I do find it disconcerting that someone of her intelligence, and a woman whom I often wanted to emulate (pre Oprah) for her journalistic skills, from all accounts does not believe in God. It's funny that this should be in their hot topics, because I prayed at length about the trip I will be going on , my luggage, my pet who is being boarded, etc before hitting the sheets last night. What is your take on prayer readers, and do you in fact judge people (in your head) who freely admit they don't pray at all?
Sunday, October 11, 2009
I am the Queen of the pet peeve. I have several: people not listening to me, not responding to you when you greet them, talking on their cell phones (loudly) in public places, slow drivers, etc. A lot of these pet peeves were born from my days in the retail industry where rudeness runs rampant. A fellow church member of mine gets heated when people come to church late. I'm not talking a mere 10-15 minutes late, I'm talking walking in after the service has been in session an hour or leaving before it's over. I want to know what your pet peeve is, and how you deal with it. Do you let folks know when they are "peeving "you off (HA!),or do you just suck it up and deal with it?
Tuesday, October 6, 2009
Tyra did an interesting show today on women who pay for male companionship. Now this does not have to include sex, but it can if both parties consent. I believe a weekend with this one guy was five grand. One lady who puchased his services said that she was a single mom with a high pressure career who had no time for romance,so a dalliance was all she wanted anyway. Of course she wasn't Black, but the question I pose to my chocolate covered sistas is this: would you or have you ever paid for it and what do you think of a woman who does?